I’m sure you know the feeling. The walls closing in a touch, the chest tightening, maybe getting a little shortness of breath… Yeah. We all go through it to some extent. I’ve recently come across a touch of anxiety. I know where it comes from. It comes from overloading myself with obligations, tasks and even jobs. Simply, I’ve bitten off more than I can chew. There are the work obligations, that are incredibly fun. There’s this health and fitness project, that is my passion. There’s my family, which is my priority. Individually, they are very easy and highly enjoyable to manage. All combined, I feel pressed to find free time for myself. I’ve put myself through a personality exam before, and I found out I was 50/50, extrovert to introvert. Throw that out of balance and I’m not feeding my spirit. Not enough people time and I get anxious. Not enough alone time and I get anxious.
Lately, I’ve found that a simple two line statement makes the pressure dissipate.
‘I Don’t Have to Do This. I Get to Do This!’
Think about it. On a worldwide basis, no matter what you do for a living, you most likely would have a line of people that would drop what they’re doing, get on a plane, fly two days to your city to have the job that you have. It’s all a matter of perspective. You don’t have to have a job. You get to have a job.
I’m just as guilty as anyone else on this next one. Parenting. There are a ton of complaining parents. It’s disgusting. Think about your friends who haven’t been able to have kids and want so desperately to do so. You don’t have to be a parent. You get to be a parent.
Passions. Working out, eating clean, learning, hiking, watching movies, riding motorcycles, surfing, playing in rec leagues, or whatever the heck it may be that fuels your fire… those are the fun ones and usually we view them as getting to do items. However, when time is of a crunch, these are the ones that get pinched. You have to find time to workout. You have to find time to study. You have to find time to make healthy food choices. Check that attitude. You get to workout. You get to eat healthy. You get to go surfing, or riding your bike, or write a blog.
Quit “having” to do things. You get to work. You get to parent. You get to have healthy passions. You get to live. You don’t have to. You get to.